So many of our female folk are doing excellently well in the work place, business and politics but failing in their relationships and interrelationships. This failing have a way of unraveling the success attained in the other areas. For this reason, there’s one thing the female needs at this time to be a success in all spheres, and that is ‘good sense’. It doesn’t matter whether she is young, old, single, married, mother or whatever appendages that are given out there. To be a true success, we must carry out the full intention of God for our lives if we agree that we truly worship the Almighty God. Sisters, this cannot be achieved without us applying good sense because so many have become foolish as mothers, wives, fiancés, bosses and supervisors. It is time to put an end to this foolishness!
Apostle Paul writing to Timothy gave certain instructions on how men and women should conduct themselves in the House of God (1Timothy 2:8-15). Now, this Scripture has been a subject of many debates with quite a number of denominations on either divide interpreting it as it seemed best to their doctrines. But this article is not to argue such positions, rather to focus on the fact that as Temples of the Most High God, there is an expected way we must behave to repel the onslaught of darkness on our lives and families. Two words that the Holy Spirit would want the female folk (whether young or old) to look at this time is ‘good sense’: “Also, the women are to dress themselves in modest clothing with decency and good sense; not with elaborate hairstyles, gold, pearls or expensive apparel, but with good works, as is proper for women who affirm that they worship God” (1Timothy 2:9-10). This Scripture is beyond the literal interpretation of physical looks but an inward look. So many women who affirm that they worship God are preoccupied with the way they look on the outside and forget the greatest apparel of all – good sense! This apparel actually covers the woman, without it she is naked and exposed to the blows of the elements: “Be careful that no one takes you captive through philosophy and empty deceit based on human tradition, based on the elemental forces of the world, and not based on Christ” (Colossians 2:8).
So many in their preoccupation with their looks and what they have achieved or hope to achieve are blindsided to the very happenings around them. They don’t realize that the enemy had come in and slowly but surely integrated himself within them to tear down their lives. That which is happening in your life that looks harmless, you must stand up against or it will become a daunting edifice of sorrow and pain. For instance, why are you comparing your fiancé, husband and children with others? This is a terrible recipe for ‘divided voices’. It is time to identify the problem and root it out of your life! When Sheba the son of Bichri rebelled against King David’s rule, the Bible says all the men of Israel followed him except for the men of Judah. In other words, 11 out of the 12 tribes of Israel were with him and it signified he was winning. Not so! In Christ Jesus majority does not necessarily translate to strength or victory. When he eventually hid in the city of Abel, Joab and his few brave men were set to pull the city down (2Samuel 20:14-22). Sisters, when we go against God, we are walking in disagreement with Him and it’s a matter of time before that which we are building outside of Him comes crumbling down. Just like the woman in the city of Abel applied good sense to save the city and the people, God’s desire is for us to apply good sense to identify the culprit in our lives and root it out. The culprit may be our attitudes, the disposition of our hearts, manner of communicating etc. For instance, some of us when speaking to our spouses are harsh, cold and unloving at the slightest provocation, how then do we expect them to respond in a loving and caring manner towards us?
Sisters, don’t be deceived, what will keep your marriage and relationships is not how you dress or how much money or time you spend on your hair and accessories but how much of good sense you have. Don’t you know that you can save your family by your good sense and equally destroy it through foolishness? Enough of wasting resources and energy on what is very clearly not benefiting your relationships but to arise and develop good sense in Christ Jesus to keep your relationships and marriages healthy. I dare say, a woman without good sense is in reality a very ugly and unattractive woman on the long run: “Your beauty should not consist of outward things like elaborate hairstyles and the wearing of gold ornaments or fine clothes; instead it should consist of the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit which is very valuable in God’s eyes” (1Peter 3:3-4). May the Holy Spirit guide your heart and teach you how to develop and grow good sense in Him in Jesus Christ name. God bless you.